Random Thought Of The Day #501

Day 501

I got back from Philly yesterday and while I love my friends, I have to say that I'm "socialized-out" a good bit. 48 hours or so straight of around a bunch of even the closest friends will kinda do that. I think I need to spend a day or 2 kinda decompressing & just hanging out at home. And considering that I've got like a half-dozen things that need fucking fixed, that's how I'm going to do so.

But in my decompressing this morning in the office before I start doing any real work, I came across something kinda interesting. Something that a number of my readers might be intrigued about. Something that I think should be common sense, but might not be.

Porn is slowly eating away at our libidos. We're becoming desensitized to sex & nudity and everything else thru our easy access to online porn.

Basically... we're overdosing on it. The standard fare porn stops doing it for us after a while and we need to find something harder or stranger or more exciting. I think a lot of us kinky fucks realize that to one degree or another. At least in our porn tastes.

But some Italian university did some sort of research study on it and has found that it's also affecting us in the bedroom as well.

It's leading more and more to ED at younger ages.

This makes sense. We get so stimulated by the scripted, choreographed, idealized porn situations, actors & actresses, and all of that, that when the real thing doesn't match up to the fantasy, we are less excited. We are less capable of "performing" because it's not at the same level of wild & erotic as the porn we mentally & subconsciously compare it to. The experience doesn't match. And the thing is, the real thing rarely matches up to the fantasy. The lighting isn't the same. The depravity isn't quite the same. The situations don't work out as perfectly as they do on video.

In real life, we have to stumble around and fall over out of the excitement of trying to get out of our jeans. We get our shirts caught over our heads while trying to yank them off too quickly. We lose footing while trying to get into "complicted-position-X-that-we-saw-in-that-porn-the-other-day" and fall on our faces. We have to stop and find the lube and then fumble around trying to line it up when we try to put it in her ass. The rope takes time to tie right without cutting off circulation or is too hastily done and slips loose in the middle of the session.

Long story short... sex is clumsy & imperfect in real life. It's not as easy or perfect as porn. Our partners might not be as vocal or we might not be. That wildly crazy kinky thing we saw on that video the other day might be something we have to talk to our partner about and ease them into or we might get flat-out told "no" to it because it's a hard limit. That doesn't happen in porn. Or we and our partners don't have the time or money to put hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars into our bodies the way porn stars do. They or we might not match up to our fantasy.

Not as funny as those "your brain
on drugs" ads from back in the day.

And because of the overdosing on the fantasy, we're unable to accept these minor imperfections in partner or situation and can't maintain the same kind of arousal level that the porn gives us. We get lost in the fantasy & can't accept that real life isn't as ideal as porn shows us it is. We become detached from realistic expectations. We start NEEDING the idealized situations of porn to get us going or keep us going.

This study was apparently only performed on straight men (to the best of my knowledge), so it doesn't really apply to women or non-hetero males. I didn't read the actual study, only the synopsis & commentary on it.

But it can explain a few things. Guess too much of a good thing isn't such a good thing after all.