RTOTD #722.1

Day 722.1

So... I want to admit something to you all. I think it's something that not a lot of people would admit but it's true.

I'm kinda shallow.

I don't mean in who I'm willing to speak to or anything like that. Friends are one thing, but I'm quite shallow and a little bit of a dick when it comes to picking people I'll play with or sleep with anymore. I'm even more shallow and picky about who I'll date.

I readily admit that before I even bother being flirty with someone, I look at their pictures. I And I look at their fetish list. Only then, if I see enough that I'm really interested in, will I even bother to glance at their profile. Even then, I'll look and think "too long, not reading all that" and begin glancing through for the keywords. Things like "only looking for girls" or "already in a relationship" or "institutionalized", "feminist", or "vegan" and I'll then ignore the rest and move the fuck on.

So yes... to me... you're just a series of pictures and a fetish list until you make yourself more interesting to me. And if you've got only like 3 pictures of you doing duck-face in a mirror from a 45 degree downward angle mixed with another 150 pictures of cat memes and retarded shit that is funny to like 17 people on 4chan in 2004, I'm also never going to bother. Sorry. That's it. If you're not hot and don't have enough kinks that I really would be interested in, I'm not even wasting my time at this point. It's not worth the effort.

Do you know why?

Common interests and sexual attraction are the 2 biggest things that I'm unwilling to "wait and see" about when I am considering approaching new people. I won't skimp on them. If I don't want to fuck you when you never speak, I've got zero interest in crossing my fingers and hoping that you say the right things so that I do want to fuck you by being attracted to your personality or brain. Not interested.

I mean, if you're going to rely on personality to get me interested in you? Don't waste your time. Sorry kids, your personality is the difference between me being interested in dating you and not just fucking you. But it won't get me interested when I don't want to just fuck you. I'm visual first.

I know this seems harsh. A lot of girls have amazing personalities. I have made some of my best female friends out of girls that I absolutely love as human beings because of their personalities, but are not potential dating partners simply because I either have zero common kinks or I just don't have any desire to fuck them. That shouldn't be an indictment of anything more than my own shallowness. They're amazing people and they'll make someone a wonderful life partner. Just not me. And I assume they're OK with that and not just waiting for me or someone else to "notice how amazing they are and how much they've been missing out on the perfect woman" because of how amazing of a person they are.

The same way that guys don't want to get "friend zone'd", neither should you girls want to be.

But back on the real topic here... I'm perfectly willing to admit that if I don't see something in a girl's pictures or kinks that really catches my eye,  no girl is going to overcome that no matter how sparkling their personality is. Maybe everyone else is lying, or maybe I'm just a pig, but girls that I don't know here are nothing but a series of pictures and a fetish list until I decide if I even care enough to read their profile.

It's just my process. See a name. That name might give me an insight into their personality a little bit to give me a clue what they're like. Like the name, check out the pictures. Cute pictures. A few are quite hot. Pretty face or even ok face... smoking hot body? Game on. Move to the fetish list... oh, look. No mention of any of my favorite fetishes? Glance the text for "limits" somewhere and look, a few of my favorites are there.

Moving on to the next one.

I like the name. I like the pics. Hot body. Look, we share some fetishes. Awesome. Oh, she's kind of cunty in her profile. Next. Not wasting my time.

Oh.. Cute name. Oh... she's not even moderately attractive. Next.

Oh, I like the name, the pictures, we share a bunch of kinks and she actually has a really cool profile. I'll even read back through for any obvious issues with me contacting her... "send a message before friend requesting"... "well, considering I never friend request anyone, that's not that damn hard. Done and done"

That's my process. That's my process just to even bother initiating a conversation and try to fuck her. Don't even get into dating. That's a whole other bag of worms. Now, might I be cutting myself off from a "great experience" with a girl that has an "amazing personality even if we don't have an instant physical attraction"? Sure. But unless someone devised a method for me to insert my penis into a personality , or it can suck on said penis... I don't really care. Because I can put my penis into a girl that gets it hard without talking.

Because in a lot of cases, the minute they open their mouths, the less I want to fuck them.

As I once said to some girl that was talking to me about a blowjob.

Me: "Blowjobs are great. But they're only the 2nd best thing a girl can do with her mouth."

Her: "What's the first?"

Me: "Shut the fuck up"